“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”
- E.E. Cummings
I know pain well. I know what addiction does to a family. I know what suicide can do to those left behind and I know what it feels like to consider suicide. I know depression well and what having a disability can do to one’s self esteem.
I know what racial divides can do to a community. I know what it feels like to be rejected and banished by a parent for loving someone of the same gender. I know the deep pain involved in leaving loved ones behind so I could have a better life.
I know what it feels like to lose a job because someone does not like me. I know how hard it is to find the words to explain how I feel as well as how hard it is to accept and ask for help. I know how it feels to be lonely in the middle of a crowd. I know what it feels like to have 6th grade reading and math skills entering into college.
Here is another thing I know: I know that as a person who has experienced hardships of all types, I have chosen not to let any of these circumstances define who I am as a person.
What made my life much better today was the decision I made many years ago. One day, while struggling with a painful situation, I just decided to say, “Yes!” to life. When the opportunity to heal emotionally came around, I said, “Yes!” When the invitation to improve upon my educational needs arrived, I said “Yes!” When the opportunities for learning to be vulnerable in healthy relationships came, I said, “Yes!”
I said “Yes!” to learning how to communicate my needs with others in my life. During a class on “Finding & Living One’s Purpose in Life”, I discovered and said, “Yes!” to my calling in this life. What I said “Yes!” to was that I would use my life experiences in helping those who want to move beyond the pains in their lives. I wanted to help others who wanted to grow to be the person they know themselves to be.
Specifically, I wanted to work with those who refuse to let what happened to them define who they are. I wanted to work with those who were no longer afraid to say “Yes!” to life.
So, as you ponder where you are in life, are you willing to say “Yes!” to a better life? Are you willing to improve areas in your life such as relationships with self and others or maybe with your job?
When and only when you are ready to say “Yes!” contact me.
Tom Ellis, CPC
Tom is a Path Finder who is solution & action focused as well as a Life Purpose Specialist. Artist & Gentleman Farmer.