Worry can be deadly. This is not hyperbole; it's the truth.
Several years ago, I landed in the hospital with 7 bleeding ulcers. I required 2 pints of blood and several days of bed rest.
Deep down, I knew this incident was related to a life-long habit of worrying.
While in the hospital, a nurse spoke quite frankly with me and said, “In the old days, you simply would have died”. I was taken back by her blunt honesty, but in the back of my mind, I knew she was right.
This crisis had been coming for years. At age 29, I had suffered a perforated ulcer that baffled my doctors. They never met a young man who did not need surgery for the perforated ulcer, as it healed naturally on its own.
With the second trip to the hospital in mind, my body and spirit were worn out by what I called my "plague of the mind." Excessive worry.
I knew it was a serious problem. I saw my doctor and told him I wanted the worrying to stop. He offered a prescription that he felt might help me, but I even managed to worry that the medication would not work.
Worrying was only part of the issue. I was unhappy in a job I'd held for more than 10 years. I was unable to sleep well. In fact, there was one point where I was trying to function on 2 hours of sleep a night, or less. The worrying was painfully eating away at my peace of mind.
It affected my job performance to the point that I was receiving verbal warnings from my supervisor after a decade's worth of a clean performance record. Eventually, we mutually agreed that I needed to leave the company.
Finally, I reached the point where I wanted to control my worrying and not let it control me. I was done.
I wanted to put an end to excessive worrying. I saw how it impacted most of my relationships in my adulthood. I realized how worrying kept me from trying new things or taking risks. I missed so many opportunities in my life.
I saw how my worrying kept me from living a normal life of peace and happiness. I was a slave to my thoughts. I prevented myself from succeeding and living out my fullest potential.
I was tired of hearing people, who meant well, tell me things like "Just stop worrying,” “Try to focus on something positive,” “Try meditation,” or “Just get over it!” I stopped listening to them and, in turn, they were tired of listening to my obsessive, worrisome thoughts.
No one could advise me on “how” to stop worrying.
I made it my personal mission to find the methods on “How” to keep the worrying from controlling me.
In the last four years as a Life Coach, after thousands of hours of training, researching and working with clients, I have discovered so many methods to control my worrying. I knew I was on the right path and wanted to share it will my clients. They responded with amazing results as well.
Today, I am liberated from excessive worrying and have learned to live with productive worrying habits.
I will not kid you, it took time and practice to get where I am today.
So, I ask you as a worrier, how far will you let the worrying control your life?
Are you ready to take the steps to control your worrying and live a life of peace of mind and happiness?
Are your relationships at home, work and even school impacted by your worrying?
When you are ready to say enough is enough and take charge of your worrying, and want to learn “How” to control your worrying, Contact me.
Tom Ellis, CPC
Tom is a Path Finder who is solution & action focused as well as a Life Purpose Specialist. Artist & Gentleman Farmer.